I hate to tell you this...Justin Timberlake did not bring "sexy back". God is bringing "sexy back" to married couples all over the nation.

Listen couples your sex life should be on fire. Understand that as a Christian you are supposed to enjoy your sex life. Sex was made for a husband and a wife. And trust me it's not just for procreating. God also designed sex for pleasure. Sex should be fun, exiting, and passionate. Not some boring religious event.

I know christian couples who actually plan two days a week to have sex...Tuesday and Wednesday. Now if that works for you and your spouse great but it doesn't work at my house.!! As a christian man I want to share  passionate intimacy with my wife! God gave the woman to me and I'm going to enjoy every single moment with her and her alone! 

Listen men if you want to bring "sexy back" to the relationship here are some tips that can help: 

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  Communication is key. Women say an average of 25,000 words a day! Guess what, they like to talk. So as men we have to learn to listen to them and give advice when they ask.
  
  

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  Take the lead. Women are attracted to authority. I didn't say control I said authority. She wants to see  that you have a handle on things.
  
  

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  Keep dating her. Women love when you take the initiative and plan a date. Have the reservations ready, buy the tickets, and the evening absolutely laid out for the woman you say you love. This communicates to her on an emotional level. It tells her that she is special because you took the time to invest in her. Brother when you  get home....well you get the picture
  
  

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  Stop buying those dumb flowers! Now if she loves flowers don't stop. But women like when we get creative
  
  

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  Most women have a favorite suit, shirt or something that they love to see you wear. My wife loves when I  throw on some jeans, and a fitted black t-shirt! I don't understand it, but she's like a tiger when I put it on. Yeah I know you're probably saying, "Man, I don't enjoy all this mooshy crap", well this is my point exactly. You don't but the average woman loves it. The whole objective is to do what brings her pleasure.
  
  

Men, don't worry. My wife is now going to give the women some tips on how to bring "sexy back"

Alright ladies it's your turn. If you want to bring "sexy back" to the relationship here are a few things you can do:

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  Shut down the "nag machine". I know he's not doing everything perfectly. But listen, I understand. I used to be an official nagger. Well, over the years I've learned that nagging accomplishes nothing. It tears him down and actually moves the man's heart away from you not towards you. I'm a minister and a life coach. And my husband and I are constantly surrounded by females. But guess what, I'm not intimidated by it. Why? Because I have his heart. I didn't say I don't use wisdom because some women even christian women  are vicious! All I'm saying is draw him to you don't push him  away from you.
  
  

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  Throw those flannel gowns away! It is not a sin to wear sexy lingerie. I remember when I first got saved I came to bed looking like my mother. My husband quickly asked me to change clothes. Don't forget men are visually stimulated. And if you can't afford Victoria Secrets then find a store that sells sexy, not sleezy lingerie at an affordable price
  
  

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  Give your man some breathing room! Ladies when your man comes home don't bombard him with the issues of the day. Give him some time to transition from his day at work. Have the house clean, especially if you're a housewife and he has worked all day. Have dinner ready. And look beautiful. Now I'm not saying that you have to put on an evening gown and makeup. Find out what your man likes. Just be presentable when he arrives home
  
  

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  Give your man a break! Most men love to watch sports. This is his time. Now I actually watch sports with my husband even though I have no clue what is going on. But I don't discuss the kids, finances, church sermons, politics, etc. This is his time. I serve him his food and drinks. And shoot a flirtatious look at him every once in a while.
  
  

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  Don't control the bedroom! Enjoy your husband. Jesus is not going to send angels from heaven to destroy you because you and your husband are absolutely enjoying sex. Take the lead sometimes.  Get involved.
  
  

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  Help Meet, Not HELL Mate! Remember ladies you are his help meet. That means you are anointed with wisdom, knowledge, ideas and solutions. You can literally break a  man or make a man. The bible says a wise woman buildeth her house but an unwise woman plucketh it down with her hands. Help him reach his fullest potential. Honor him always. Men need honor and respect. I don't care if he's broke, busted, and disgusted. You help him by releasing the Help Meet's anointing.
  
  

Well that's all folks. Our prayer is that you and your spouse will bring "sexy back". We pray that you and your spouse will begin to enjoy each other, respect  and honor one another, and most importantly place God at the core of your marriage.

Lincoln & Lyneta Dent